It’s a situation that I’ve run into often: a friend invites me to hang out with them. I give a noncommittal answer, and try my best to change the subject. I realize that I do this for one of two reasons: I either don’t want to do it and don’t want to hurt their feelings or that potential situation is giving me anxiety. In both cases, I feel as though I should go anyway.
My friends are very good at making sure that everyone is enjoying themselves. So whenever I get invited to hang out or go somewhere with friends, I know that I will have a good time. However, I enjoy being by myself just as much as I enjoy being around others. This usually leads me to not accept plans or cancel plans(something I HATE doing).
This last semester at college, I got really close to a group of people and hung out with them all the time. Just like many times before there were situations were I was hesitant to hang out with them on certain nights or go along with plans they had created. I’m forever grateful for this group of friends, though because they were so understanding when I couldn’t decide whether to hang out with them or not. It made those situations so much easier to handle because I knew they wouldn’t hold my choice against me.
Around St. Patrick’s Day, I was invited to go with my friends to help make Leprechaun feet at an elementary school. I was really nervous about this because it included having to drive in a crowded car for 30 minutes each way, and eat dinner at one of my friend’s house with his family. In the end I went(I stuck to one of my friends like glue!), and I’m so happy I did.
Although I struggled with motivating myself at times, I accepted 99% of the opportunities to hang out and I had the time of my life. I’ve made memories that will last a lifetime(such a cliché but it’s true!), I’ve laughed my ass off, and I’ve grown as I person because I’ve learned to take chances and was greatly rewarded.
What I say to you is this: Say yes! Go out with friends. Laugh until your back hurts or until you start crying. Try something new because life is short and you won’t regret it. 🙂
Until next time,